Apparently through cross pollination ;)

I have no idea what I was going to write here. So, I'll just make something up :P

Cross pollination..hmmmm....
Through cross pollination..hmmmmm...

Well, all of us have happened through cross-pollination, haven't we?
But what makes us, us , is actually the cross-pollination we do everyday. We, almost everyday, are trying to be someone we look up to, have thought of being like, aspire to become someday. So, in this process, we filter out what we what to do, who do we want to be with and hence change the situation as per our needs. We learn from our surroundings, from the subsection of everything we have created.
And for those, who think they are not, well, think again. Everyday, we set some milestone for ourselves and start the process. And end of the day, through cross-pollination, we become a different version of ourselves irrespective if we have achieved the milestone.

How many times have we heard someone saying that it's the journey that matters not the destination. But, still, all we can think of is that milestone. Now there comes the huge difference. Some of us will keep over analyzing the day that has passed already and lose the learning to get back to square one, while others will move on with the same milestone for the next day too, and actually believe in themselves. That's what we become. And strangely it's not the surroundings that changed us here. It's the decision we took whether to stick to same day or move on.

I am not saying there is anything wrong with over analyzing. I myself am that kind of person. So, its always 2 steps ahead and 3 steps backward. Yes, I know this is irrational. But then that's how I operate, at least. Whether I want to change myself is only something the future cross-pollination can tell.

Salvation

Why is it that sometimes what we have lost becomes our ultimate goal ?
I lost what I thought at that time was most important to me. When I look back now...I see much of it is just overrated.
Is this going to happen again ? Am I going to get it someday again? God..this craving.

We spend our lives wanting this and that and not once pondering over what we need . It sounds holistic to believe that I don't want anything . I just need myself.

Am I being selfish here? I don't know..but this is my salvation !

Negative- Being Pessimistic

This may or may not reflect persona of many people but it certainly categorizes people according to their preferences. some people choose to look on the brighter side and some keep pulling themselves back.

Though i cannot categorize myself as optimistic or pessimistic but i guess its human nature to fall in one or the other category. The incident that happened today totally proved it. I meant no harm but it did a lot of damage. Yesterday i was the assertive feminist Anu and now i have become someone else. I agreed on almost everything..strange..i was abiding by him all through it.

I know what i did was for my benefit only but then it turned sideways. Again..its the matter of preferences. 

My preference remains the same but people's preference changed. Its hard to satisfy even yourself forget people around you. And here i am trying to satisfy people around, leaving myself unsatisfied.

I need to set things straight to rectify the damage. And for the satisfaction quota..this may take time but am surely on the right track now.

Domestic Violence :(

We see many things happening around us but one i can't tolerate is domestic violence..who the hell gives anyone the right to hurt anyone. You will find many people around telling you constantly that they understand you but the truth is that nobody can understand you unless he had been in the same shoes before. The pain one feels being physically hit can't be estimated. We hear many cases around where after marriage the girl is beaten by her family. But this is not the only domestic violence females face. Many girls are beaten in their parental family as well. I would have never understood this fact until unless i hadn't seen my own best friend gone through this. It's really insane and harsh. How can someone's parents beat their own loved girl...its beyond words. I feel damn shameful of our society. One side we compare girls to our goddesses and other side we beat the hell out of her. 

These people really think god is going to forgive them for this.  DISGUSTING!!!!!

Seriously.....how can they see their daughters crying that too they themselves being the reason for it. Stone hearten people :( 

Life is really not that easy and simple..we might not have to face what my friend and other girls like her face but just think once what kind of life that will be.......miserable enough. Not a single reason to live anymore as your own parents don't love you anymore.....they see you as a dump for their frustration. PATHETIC!!!!!

Grow up people...girls are not anyone's bait.

See them as your future !!!

Live and Let Live :(

What if..?

Nobody’s life is perfect, so is not mine.

No complaints, no regrets!!!

I am okay with whatever life brings to me but that doesn’t imply i will stop making wishes. Life has always been a roller coaster ride for me. Whenever i thought i was in control of it, it took the charge from me making me realise my positionL. That happens to everyone, right! What if, i am the one who is going to decide the deeds of future? Quite amazing it seems, but that will leave me with no excitement for future. Nah!! That’s not quite interesting. What if, somehow i got to know the probable future, the part i make changes into, sweet na...

There are many what ifs we all think about at times. Obsession about anyone or anything can lead us into multiple what ifs. But we only get what we are meant to. Sometimes i really think what if i had the power to do anything i wanted to...like...change the fate of our cricket team ;) but then i think how boring it will become. I will never see any match for it’s me who has already decided the result. We humans are never satisfied. But i truly believe whatever happens, happens for a reasonJ. We do curse life at times when we don’t get what we desire but honestly it was not meant to be given. Yeah, it is more of a philosophy fact but with those it has happened will surely abide by it.

How many times we realise “Thank god it didn’t happen the way i wished” instead of “Alas! Why it didn’t happen the way i wished”? The answer might be different for everyone but all of you must have faced both situations. It’s just the circle of life. I remember a song of Justin Timberlake “What goes around, comes back around”. So true it isJ. So instead of worrying, what if this could happen we really should worry about what we are doing at present. That will surely reduce the what ifs.

Life is never bread n butter for everyone but it will turn smooth one day. Have faithJ. What if that’s what life wants you to do...?

At times, you know

I am really fond of those reality shows which pretend that they will make you realise the real one inside you. Take for example ROADIES. No matter what shit you say it’s at least the real you (at least i believe in the same). At times, you know, i think what i would say if i were there. I probably know a few starters but for being a dark horse in that race i need to hard work a lot :D. Among all the weird things i think about, the strangest thing i want to do is be the president just for one day like the chief minister for one day in Bollywood movie Nayak :D. I know i know some of you might be already exclaiming “Poor country, poor people” but like i said it’s just one amongst my weirdo thoughts. At times, you know, i think what our country will be like if there was no pollution. Delhi will surely become to breathe in :D. But seriously, no foul smell, no nasty pasty places. I just dreamt a dream. I also believe someday the slums will become liveable places for the people living thereL. It’s gross and pathetic.  At times, you know, i believe things will change for good for all of us. It’s never late to start all it takes is an initiativeJ.

Its not the DRESS!!

http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/columns/Kalpana_Sharma/article2783022.ece

What an amazing New Year gift for Indian women! A police chief and a Minister telling them that if they get harassed, molested or raped, it is actually their fault. We have heard this before on many occasions. But coming as it does just as the New Year dawns, it is a bit of a downer for all those who thought that perhaps our society would finally accept that women are equal citizens and that if they continue to be sexually assaulted, there is a sickness in our society that must be tackled. Not quite yet, it would seem.

According to media reports, the Director General of Police of Andhra Pradesh was quoted as saying words to the effect that if women wore flimsy clothes, they provoked rape. These remarks were recorded on camera and telecast. And have been played out on the Internet on multiple sites. Hence, it is strange that police officers defending the DGP should suggest that the remarks have been taken out of context. They were made in response to a question about the incidence of rape in Andhra Pradesh.

Meanwhile, a Karnataka Minister responsible for women's welfare, when asked what he thought of the Andhra DGP's views, was reported saying that while women were free to dress as they pleased, he was personally against them wearing ‘provocative' clothing and that they needed to be ‘dignified'. And to add further grist to the mill, the head of a panel dealing with sexual harassment in Bangalore University believes that only sarees with long sleeved blouses ensure that women are respected and that she is against women wearing ‘obscene' clothes.

The more things change

Public memory is notoriously short on most issues and people like the young man who has written, presuming he is young, are probably unaware of the long struggle waged by the women's movement in India against rape. He and others like him have probably never heard of Mathura, a 16-year-old tribal girl who was raped by two policemen in the Desai Ganj police station in Maharashtra's Chandrapur district in 1974. Mathura had gone to the police to register a complaint about her missing husband. Even as her relatives waited outside for her, she was assaulted and raped by the two men. Did this attack have anything to do with what she wore? Did she invite the rape? It was a question of power. The police had the power; Mathura did not.

Unfortunately, the courts let off the two policemen on the grounds that there were no injuries on Mathura to establish that she had resisted. Hence the court gave the benefit of the doubt to the policemen. It was this judgment that triggered a campaign to change the rape laws so that the victim was not victimised further. It also established rules about police conduct; women cannot be summoned to a police station after dark and when they are, women constables have to be present. In 1983, the provision in the criminal law dealing with rape was amended so that the victim did not have to prove that she was raped; her statement was sufficient. The onus of proving innocence was on the rapist. These changes were made in recognition of the fact that the criminal justice system was skewed against women who turned to the law when they were sexually assaulted.

Or take a more recent case, that of the rape and murder of 32-year-old Thangjam Manorama in Manipur in 2004, allegedly by the security forces. Did it matter what Manorama wore? Her rape and death triggered the iconic naked protest by a dozen elderly Manipuri women in Imphal, who stood before the headquarters of the Assam Rifles on July 15, 2004, with a banner stating “Indian Army Rape Us”. The “Imas” or mothers as they are called, have continued to protest against the Armed Forces Special Powers Act (AFSPA) and are the main support group behind that determined and brave woman, Irom Sharmila, whose indefinite fast against AFSPA will soon enter its 12 th year.

Its Impeccable

So, how is women's attire relevant when the subject is rape and sexual assault? When little girls are raped, can they be charged with being provocative? When old women are raped, can they be accused of wearing ‘obscene' clothes? When a woman is simply going about her daily routine, and she is sexually assaulted, can we turn around and tell her that she should be ‘dignified'? There is no dignity in being the target of violence for no other reason than that you are a woman — old, young, thin, fat, dark, fair, any caste, creed or class. To reduce the heinousness of this crime to such triviality, by bringing up women's attire, is a crime in itself. And for law enforcers and lawmakers to do so, is even worse.